Going for a woman in a relationship

[My2cntsin]

ok, here's my situation....about a year and a half ago I was chatting with this one girl that lives in NY, while i was living in north carolina at the time. we chatted and talked on the phone for a couple months, but then i sort of let her go because i just wasnt ready to take it further. so we havnt talked since. back then i was unemployed and, i wouldnt say depressed, but just feeling down.

anyways, fast forward to last week. i see her online, so i decide to say hi to her and catch up. it turns out that she's been talking to this dude that only lives 20 minutes from me here in california, AND she is coming to see him next monday. so the past few days, we've been on the phone alot, and we're planning on finally meeting up while she's here. she says she's not too sure what she thinks of the guy yet, even though he has gone to visit her in NY twice already, so this will be their 3rd meeting. we got on the topic of cheating, and she said she would never cheat, and would not doing anything physical with me because she is in a "relationship" with that guy. but i know she likes me alot, probably more than that other guy.

so what am i getting myself into??