He's Married Already

[gannon]

I checked to see if this was a redundant thread but couldnt find one, so here goes. I met a man about a year ago from another site. He contacted me and wanted to talk and from the get go he told me he was married. I never ventured to unchartered territory so I didnt think much of it. We become online friends until the day he asked me to meet him for lunch as "just friends". He had made some comments to me during our chats and told me that he was attracted to me but I made it very clear to him that I wasnt looking to be with a married man and he said he wasnt looking to have an affair, but just wanted me to know his feelings. Fast foward to the present time, we still have our chats online and have seen each other a few times in the past year.......let me make it crystal clear we have not had sex, some kissing, hugging but thats it. I have tried to tell him that I cant cross the line as I am a single, widowed woman to be exact, and wouldnt want the shoe to be on the other foot. I cant count the times I have ended our friendship via online with him, but he has a way of pulling me back in. I would like for all you kind people to tell me your thoughts on this, am I a witch for continuing to talk to him? Remeber, I have tried in many different ways to let by gones be by gones to no avail, and trust me I am not in love with him, but I will dare to say we do have a connection that is out of this world however, I know it will never go any further than what it has already. Please dont bash me here, just need others advice to clear my head.

[jannycf]

You might ask yourself this question: If he was my husband, would I want his online friend, that also kisses and hugs my husband, to go look else where for companionship?

There is your answer.

Good luck.

P.S. Don't forget you have power in this relationship. Don't blame it on him. Once you have cut him off to emails, phone calls, lunches, etc., he'll find someone to chat with. Trust me!